What is it that gives us confidence? Does it come in a bottle? Is it a lotion? How do we get it? It seems that many people, if not everyone needs this thing called confidence.
So that's when I started to think about how can can get it.
But that makes the assumption that we don't have it. Maybe we have it but don't know how to access it. Yes, that's it.
I know sometimes I've had it. And sometimes not. If I look at those situations, and try to make an analysis what I've done that makes me act with confidence and when not.
Act with confidence?
Is confidence an act?
If act, is short for ACTION, then yes. Confidence requires action.
But what kind of action... hmmmm... Doing a good job at something. Knowing what I'm talking about, Proceed without fear.
Ok, all those are confident acts. But I also noticed something. Confidence requires that there is interaction with someone or something else. It's like the value you put upon yourself to get the job done. And Confidence gives us a dose emotional courage and mental strength to deal with a problem.
So confidence resolves problems? Yes. It can.
Then what is a "problem"?
A problem is a judgement based on perception of an issue.
"I think we have a problem"
"It looks like that won't work"
"I hope that doesn't happen"
Confidence changes the perception to one of a positive nature:
"I know we can face this challenge"
"We can make adjustments, it will work"
"Change direction so we get what we want"
Do you notice that just by our judgement of something, or perception, that creates it's own reality? Confidence is the variable we have to create a positive perception.
But WAIT!!! Have not the great philosophers throughout history told us specifically:
Do not judge! Don't be Judgmental!
So if we do not judge a thing and put a label of good or bad on it, doesn't that mean I don't need to build confidence to change the perception?
The perception is what it is.
You have all the confidence you need.
You were born with it. It's already within you.
When you show lack of confidence, you fall into the trap of judging something.
You perceive it to be unattainable. You are in fear.
That is the illusion.
The reality is you are completely confident in everything you do.
Do not make judgements (this includes "mistakes" - a preconceived idea on the outcome that does not materialize)
Embrace your confidence. It's your natural state, free from all worry and doubt (judgements).
Now you can live your life to it's absolute fullest. Live the adventure. Shoot for the stars!
Because you can!
Set a goal, and go for it!
David Pyke - Your Goal Keeper!
